Our lives are meant to thrive and blossom, but we often fall short of our potential. Stop trying harder. Go deeper to the roots and remove the rocks in the soil and thorns in your life that are stunnting your growth. Restore your authenticity and begin to excel in every area of your life.

The quality of our relationship with others is indicative of our emotional and spiritual maturity. But why are good relationships so hard to attain? There are several explanations. On the surface, most of us have not received proper training in communication, which includes listening skills, empathy, affirmation, and understanding and acceptance of different communication styles. Our internal bias, can also blindside our judgment and creates conflicts and divisions between people.

Looking deeper into our souls, however, we notice that such things as fears, selfishness, our swollen instinct, and the need to control, can play a big role in the patterns of behaviors we exhibit in our interactions with one another. On one extreme, we can feel like we are in constant conflict with everyone, on the other, we can feel isolated and hard to find connection and intimacy.

The good news is that everyone who is willing can learn boundaries, openness, genuineness, vulnerability, and the will and freedom to love. So instead of ignoring your relationship issues by calling merely as ‘personality preference’, start taking concrete steps to grow and be transformed.

There is no fear in love but perfect love drives out fear.

1 John 4: 18

Steps I can take for my spiritual growth

1. Identify patterns before behaviors that hurt my relationships and performances

2. Connect these patterns to my beliefs about myself

3. Uncover the sources of these beliefs

4. Discover my true identiy as one loved by God

Step 1 Redefine my identity

1. Identify the causes of my stress, anxiety, and fears

2. Trace these causes to past traumatic experiences

3. Reframe my mind to my present reality

4. Learn to surrender

1. Identify toxic thoughts and replace them with wholesome thoughts

2. Recognize my harmful behaviors and replace them with love, trust, and humility

3. Reaffirm my value as God's beloved

Step 2 Reframe my reality

Step 3 Renew my mind